Every woman wants to be happy, especially in a relationship. Too often we think we know what we want in a man.........we have preconceived notions and are more often than not, unwilling to waiver from the pictures painted in our heads. Have you ever considered that those pretty little pictures may be just that? Pretty notions, pretty patterns of some imaginable man we have not met?
Sometimes we see in our heads, a picture of what we consider handsome, virile, masculine, just perfect, too perfect. A picture or blue print that no man could ever live up to. A Prince Charming...a man who simply does not exist.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Where do we come up with these ideas, pictures and impossible images? Well most of us grow up watching too much TV, too many movies, reading too many romance books concerning the perfect man. Do you feel pretty, charming, gracious and even tempered all of the time? Probably not. So why do you think a man must, 24/7, live up to your image of perfection? It just isn't going to happen, no matter how much we want it. Does this mean a happy, satisfying relationship, both emotionally and sexually, cannot exist for you? Of course not. You can have it all, if you become realistic in your thinking and and take note, truthfully, of what sort of personality would make and keep you happy.
What happens in real life is this: While thinking we know the kind of guy we want, we pick, we actually find the kind of guy we deserve at that time because we didn't consider everything in a down to earth manner.
In the next blog we will consider why, when we find the guy in our heads, the relationship sours and the wheels fall off.
